Eyes on Jesus, Not Everyone Else's Highlight Reel

Do you ever find yourself scrolling through social media, looking at someone else’s perfect life, and suddenly feeling like yours doesn’t measure up? It seems like one minute, you’re fine, and the next, even though no circumstances have changed, you’re convinced you’re failing at everything - your house isn’t like everyone else’s, your job is not that exciting, and even your dinner looks blah compared to what you see everybody else eating.

It’s exhausting, isn’t it? I mean, really exhausting.

But here’s the truth: Comparison is a liar. It whispers deep inside that you’re not enough, that God’s blessings are skipping over you, and that you need to strive harder to keep up. But that’s not what God says about you.

God’s plan for you is yours alone.

Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” God handcrafted you, your personality, your gifts, even your quirks - on purpose. That means He didn’t create you to live someone else’s story. He numbered each of your days with the utmost intention and care.

When we start comparing, we’re essentially saying to God that what He gave us isn’t good enough. Ouch! But, friend, His plans for you are just as intentional and just as beautiful as the plans He has for anyone else.

Remember Peter in Matthew 14? He was literally walking on water! What?? As long as he kept his eyes on Jesus, he stayed above the water, but as soon as he looked at the wind and waves (the distractions around him), he started sinking.

That’s what it’s like for us with comparison. The moment we take our eyes off Jesus and start looking at someone else’s life, job, talents, relationships, we begin to sink in self-doubt, frustration, and jealousy. It’s true!

So how do we stay above the waves that inevitably are going to come?

  • Start your day in God’s Word! Fill your mind with His truth. It’s all there - His promises, blessings, instruction, and encouragement. Psalm 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”

  • Pray for a heart of gratitude. Nothing kills comparison like counting your blessings.

  • Celebrate others without questioning your own worth. Someone else’s success doesn’t mean your life is lacking.

  • Trust that God is writing a story in your life - one that isn’t meant to look like anyone else’s.

  • And, finally, run your own race!

Hebrews 12:1-2 says, “Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.”

Your race is YOUR race. Not his. Not hers. Not theirs. YOURS. And the only way to run it well is to keep your eyes on Jesus.

So next time comparison tries to creep in, shut it down with this truth:

God’s plan for me is good. His timing is perfect. And my life is right where it’s supposed to be.

Now go purpose to live your story with joy, confidence, and your focus locked onto Him!

70 x 7

Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive someone who did something against him. Seven times? Seems reasonable, doesn’t it? In fact, downright generous.

But Jesus went much further than that and told Peter we should forgive 70 TIMES 7. That’s a lot!

In the Bible when the number seven is mentioned, it is associated with perfection or completion. It makes sense then that Peter used the number seven in his question.

Why do you think Jesus replied the way He did? He then followed His reply with the parable about the unmerciful servant. The servant, after having a very large debt he owed forgiven by the king, turned around and had someone who owed him a small debt thrown into prison because he couldn’t repay it.

When the king found out what the servant did, he called the servant in and questioned his lack of mercy towards the man who owed him the small debt. The king was so angry that he then reinstated the servant’s debt and turned him over to the jailers to be tortured until he was able to repay his large debt.

As followers of Jesus, we have each been forgiven a large debt. Our sin comes with a price that we cannot pay ourselves, so Jesus came to pay that debt with His own life. We haven’t earned it, but it is free if we choose to accept it. When we ask Jesus to rule and reign in our lives, we walk knowing that we are forgiven simply because we received His gift. No matter how many times we sin, His forgiveness is available to us.

So what does that look like in our relationship with others? If you spend any time with people at all in your home or outside of it, you know that things can come up. People can do things that rub us the wrong way, offend us, or even hurt us deeply. Once that happens, we have a choice. We can choose to pick up that irritation, offense, or hurt and let it steal our peace and cause division, or we can choose to forgive them so that our hearts don’t become hard and bitter if the unforgiveness takes root, festers, and grows.

There is much more to be said on the subject of forgiveness that we aren’t going to touch on here. But the short and simple take-away is that we always have a choice on how we are going to respond to the things that take place in our lives. As we walk with Jesus, it’s our desire to be more like Him and that our minds are renewed to be like His, and this is one small step in that process.

So next time an issue comes up with another person, pause and choose to forgive them, even if you don’t feel like it, and then see what God does in your life and also in theirs.

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Joy McLaughlin

As a co-founder of The Renewal Project, one of Joy's greatest passions is to help others walk in freedom, joy, and hope. When she is not ministering to others, she also enjoys writing, hiking, and spending time with her family and friends.